Marriage is hard as it is but adding this type of stress makes it even more difficult. I think at times this has brought us together and other times pushed us apart (more from my side). It has really taught me to lean on my husband more because most of the time i would always run to parents or other family members but now, he is the only person that truly understands what I am going through...and we are completely missing the same person/thing. He understands me more than anyone. We definitely grieve different and that has been hard for me because I am so emotional and verbal and he is not.
But my husband has said the same thing about wishing it were him that found our son and not me...he actually found his younger brother (drowned at 3) and he knows the impact of seeing someone you love like "that." It was hard to get that image out of my mind for awhile because I would just picture that "scene" all the time. Which makes it hard with our new baby because he sometimes looks that way while he is sleeping and it completely freaks me out :(
Anyways, thanks again for sharing part of you and your story with the us.
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Marriage is hard as it is but adding this type of stress makes it even more difficult. I think at times this has brought us together and other times pushed us apart (more from my side). It has really taught me to lean on my husband more because most of the time i would always run to parents or other family members but now, he is the only person that truly understands what I am going through...and we are completely missing the same person/thing. He understands me more than anyone. We definitely grieve different and that has been hard for me because I am so emotional and verbal and he is not.
But my husband has said the same thing about wishing it were him that found our son and not me...he actually found his younger brother (drowned at 3) and he knows the impact of seeing someone you love like "that." It was hard to get that image out of my mind for awhile because I would just picture that "scene" all the time. Which makes it hard with our new baby because he sometimes looks that way while he is sleeping and it completely freaks me out :(
Anyways, thanks again for sharing part of you and your story with the us.
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